Let’s say my toddler wants a cracker. Basically, here is how the conversation goes:
Toddler: I waaaaannnnttttt iiiiiiittttttt!!!!!
Me: What is it that you want, sweetheart?
Toddler: I wwwwwwaaaaaannnnt iiiitttt!! Craaaaaackkkerrrrr!!!
Me: I’m so sorry, I can’t understand those noises that you’re making. Can you please use your normal voice and tell me what you want? Are you trying to say that you would like a cracker?
Then model for your toddler how he should ask for it, but don’t force him to do so. You are just modeling it.
Me: You can say, “Mama, can I please have a cracker?”
Then give toddler said cracker and voila!
This works like magic, give it a try and stick to your guns! Don’t give in to the whining, it will break you down and make you yell things you don’t want to! Unless of course, you have some WINE to go with your toddler’s WHINE!