Written by Dr. Jane Nelson for Positivediscipline.com. The one Positive Discipline Tool I wish I had used more consistently is this: Connection before Correction. Of course, I didn't know what this meant as a young mother, and didn't create it as a Positive Discipline tool until about five years ago. Now we know it is just brain science: children learn (grow, feel safe, thrive) best when they feel connection—or as Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs taught us, "a sense of belonging and significance". Extensive research shows that we cannot influence children in a positive way until we ...
The Art of Active Listening
Excerpt from the book Positive Discipline for Preschoolers, by Jane Nelsen, Cheryl Erwin, and Roslyn Ann Duffy and published on positivediscipline.com. Active (or reflective) listening is an effective tool of communication. One that will serve you well as you parent your child and (sooner than you may think) the adolescent that child will become. Active listening is the art of observing and listening to feelings, then reflecting them back. Active listening does not require that you agree with your child’s feelings, but it allows your child to feel connected and understood—something all ...
Until Newborns Arrive with a Technical Manual, Turn to a Postpartum Doula to Save the Day/Night – In-Home Help After Baby Arrives
Many people think of doulas as delivery assistants who help with breathing techniques and pushing. But an evolution within the parenting scene is underway as families today turn to caring, trained professionals to help boost confidence and strike a much-needed balance across the home front when a new baby is welcomed home. Postpartum doulas are nurturing experts and trusted advisors dedicated to providing physical, educational and non-judgmental emotional support and guidance to a new mother and her family. Our mission is to fill the gaps left by customary postpartum practices, which ...
